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Dear M J,

I am a 22-year-old college student. I am currently looking for employment and I am extremely focused and determined. I live with my mom, stepdad and 21-year-old brother. I feel that my mom’s lack of trust in me will eventually form a problem in our relationship. She is my best friend. I tell her everything but she still doesn’t trust me. I must ask to go out with my friends, I am not allowed to drive my car places she doesn’t approve, and she even intrudes in my relationships with others. I have tried to explain how I feel to her but she deems it disrespectful no matter how I approach her. My 21-year-old brother is shown great amounts of trust, which seem unfair. What should I do to resolve this before I find my relationship with my mom completely on the outs?

Signed Untrusted & Unfair


Hi Untrusted &Unfair,

You know some believe that the connection a parent feels to their children is one of the strongest bonds that humans can form.  I think this should help you understand how your mom feels. I think this is just a phase. It’s not that she doesn’t trust you, it may be that the thought of something happening to you is too much for her to bare. My advice to you is to do everything you can to ease those concerns and just allow it to pass. Through time, it will pass and before you know it you’ll have all her trust. Congratulations on furthering your education and all of us here at the Dolphin Newspaper wish you all the luck in your search for employment.

Sincerely M J


Dear M J,

I have had ups and downs in life. Sometimes I wonder how I have made it through it all. My husband knows about these struggles and somehow, I still don’t feel like he understands. Due to everything that has happened to me, I have serious anxiety and depression. I feel alone, unappreciated and misunderstood. Is there some advice that you can give me? I will really appreciate it!

Signed Alone & Misunderstood


Dear Alone & Misunderstood

I am so sorry that you are feeling this way. I think maybe you only feel that way because you are allowing your families lack of appreciation affect how you feel. When you begin to appreciate yourself and find the comfort you look for in them in yourself, you may feel a little better. Feeling alone may keep you anxious and depressed, you should try to treat yourself to something you want and be find happiness in your own company. I hope this advice helps.


Dear M J,

I have a serious crush! I don’t know if I should tell them how I feel. I am so afraid of rejection that I would rather fight these feelings rather than be vulnerable for someone else. This person may be sending mixed signals or flirting with me without trying to? I can’t stop thinking about them! Please Help? What should I do?

Signed Crushing & Afraid


Dear Crushing & Afraid,

I think you should go for it. Everyone has faced rejection at one time or another. It won’t be the end of the world if they don’t feel the same but it may be the beginning of a beautiful new relationship if they do! I am sending you all the positive energy in the universe! Please write back to let us know how it goes!

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