Raising a Family Today

Samira Palmer Staff Writer

Samira Palmer
Staff Writer

By Samira Palmer

Years ago, a couple wouldn’t live together unless they were married. And after marriage comes the kids. The man would be the breadwinner and the woman would stay home and take care of the kids.

Times have changed and the older generation may think we’re doing it wrong.  But many people argue that it makes sense for a couple to live together before marriage. They feel this way because you learn more about a person once you live together. If you wait until after you are married, you make not like what you see.

It’s better to get to know a person completely before you decide to spend the rest of your life together. Does he/she clean up after him/her self? What does he/she really look like in the morning? How does he/she treat his/her family? Does he/she cook? Would you want to spend your life with someone who is naturally messy? Or even someone who is completely cut off from the world and hates everyone? Even the smallest issues can become the biggest problems for couples.

Scary, isn’t it? That’s part of the reason why a large number of couples are just “together” and not married. Some are afraid of commitment and others feel like marriage can sometimes jinx the relationship.

It used to be every girls’ dream to get married to the man of their dreams, have two kids and live happily ever after. Nowadays, females want to be independent and prove that they don’t “need “a man. Which is fine until you bring a kid into the world. At that point you should want a man to be in your life. A child deserves a mother and a father, and not just a mother who plays daddy as well. I understand that sometimes it happens against our will, but if it can be prevented from happening, then it should.

Unfortunately, this happens a lot. It’s almost more typical to see a single parent than to see a complete family unit. There are plenty of people from single parent homes who have become successful in life. But from my experience, a family unit creates a better foundation. There’s more support and more attention given to a child, which makes the child feel loved and appreciated. This in turn helps keep a child on the right path, avoiding the pitfalls of life on the streets, gangs and crime. Whether a child has one parent or two, the love and support has to be there for the child to thrive.

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